Dean of Students | Mr Damien Cuddihy

Many of you would be aware that it is R U OK? Day today. The significance of this day has never had so much relevance than it does in 2020. Our vulnerable students who work so incredibly hard to keep in the ‘green zone’ have really felt the pressure build in subtle ways over the last six months. The need to have a genuine sense of connection with those around us continues to be challenging. This year’s theme, "There’s more to say after R U OK?" focuses on the follow up actions. Today we have played some games with Years 5 and 6 students and have taken the opportunity to speak with the boys about listening to others, encouraging action and to remember to check in from time to time. This is another great conversation starter around the dinner table as it was discussed with all boys during AM Pastoral Care group this morning.

The influence of others has always been a very strong and powerful force in the lives of our young men. In many cases, this unfolds as a positive influence, but we do become acutely aware of the potential pitfalls this influence can have on our sons as well. In schools, it is the unwritten rules that people fear being judged over. Whether it is being too loud or too quiet, too different, too interested in sport, not interested enough or the way you look that can lead to that feeling of being disconnected within the community. Often boys will choose to conform rather than staying true to their values and individuality. Building one’s capacity for moral courage is certainly a long game. Schools will never stop judgement, but we need to teach boys to make judgements more mindfully. Furthermore, we can teach our boys that it is possible to make a judgement and not feel the need to articulate it. If you cannot be kind, be quiet. Last week, I spoke about the challenges the internet presents for children in this space. They can be quick to judge and feel entitled to express those judgements.

Finally, I would like to take the opportunity to highlight some of the great work one of our Seniors has been working on throughout the year. Barrett House Captain and proud indigenous man Emerson Locke has driven Project Aurukun with members of his House to support the people of Aurukun in Cape York. They have been able to send 20 boxes of shoes and thongs and 30 boxes of clothing in recent times to this community. Emerson has been an outstanding leader for not only Barrett House but the Terrace Family. Well done Emerson!